Happy New Year!!! 2018 is upon us and I am not sure how that happened. I swear, it was like yesterday when we were freaking out about what would happen the morning of the year 2000 (turns out nothing crazy would happen;)).
So, it’s that time for me to reflect on 2017 and look in to 2018. 2017 was filled with some amazing things along with some devastating things. I think that happens every year, it’s just that as we get older, we are more aware of things outside of ourselves and we know more people. We enter a new stage of life and, all-of-a-sudden, it feels like we are attending way more funerals and getting more divorce announcements in a year than we are attending weddings and getting birth announcements.
I sort of had a change of mindset a couple weeks ago. I had the privilege of being with my grandpa as he took his last breaths. I had never seen anyone die before and it was the craziest thing. The best thing that I could compare it to, is a wind-up toy running out of steam. His body slowed down between each breath, until it just finished working. It was peaceful and beautiful, just as I have heard described. The sun was shining and it felt warm on my face, and I remember thinking, “today is a good day to go to heaven”.
I am a little scared of death, to be honest. I am scared that my time will come before I am ready to go or someone I love will be taken when I am not ready. The truth is, I don’t think we are ever ready. So, I decided to change my mindset because no matter how hard I try, I cannot stop death. I have decided to look at funerals a little differently. I am so blessed to have had these people touch my life and help shape me in some way. I will take them as a true celebration of the person that they were and impact that they had.
So, what does this all mean for 2018? The theme for 2018 for me is to really be in the now and open to anything. To me, this means – reaching out to friends or family with a phone call or letter. If I want to do something (like have a dinner party), I will just plan it. Throw out an invitation and not worry about what’s on the menu or how my house looks. I will just enjoy the company of others. I will not describe my life as “busy” as everyone is ‘busy’, even if you are watching TV all day – you are busy doing that. I will be hopeful and have gratitude for each day that I am given. I won’t curse each grey hair and ‘laugh line’ as they come, but I will be happy that I have the opportunity to grow old.
My wish for you for the New Year: Exercise daily – find something that you like to do and do it every day. Eat good, whole food that nourishes you. Invest in your relationships – the grass is greener where you water it. Smile, laugh, learn and love to your fullest. We don’t know how much time we have, so make sure that you make the most of each day. It doesn’t have to be an epic adventure, we all have to go to work, run kids around, etc. BUT, find the things in each task that can fuel you. Be authentically you and live without guilt – ENJOY!!
Happy New Year and all the BEST things in 2018J
Rebecca & Jason